The Relationship Clinic Counselling for Couples, Families and Teens
In Shoreditch, Liverpool Street, Central London

Counselling, Psychotherapy, Clinical Supervision & Live Coaching in London Liverpool Street and Shoreditch

I am an integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist which means that I use different modalities of counselling that suit the client best at a specific time. Over the course of counselling I might use different modalities, but always discuss and agree this with the client as we all have different needs at different times.

What is REBT (Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy)?

REBT is a different form of CBT. REBT was originally developed by Albert Ellis, born 1913 in Pittsburgh and raised in New York. Ellis became interested in Counselling after completion of a psychology program at Columbia University.
He published his first successful book called the ‘Art of Science and Love’ in 1960. He wrote 54 books and more than 600 articles on REBT. Ellis, who is now 95 years of age, is the founder of the Albert Ellis Institute in New York, which promotes his vision of enhancing emotional growth through the delivery of REBT and CBT.
The underlying theory of REBT’ is that human beings have a strong life force and desire to achieve some degree of happiness. However, they are also likely to adopt irrational beliefs and behaviours which stand in the way of achieving their goals and purposes, often taking the form of extreme or dogmatic 'must', 'should', or 'ought'. REBT differentiates between healthy negative emotions (like sadness or regret or concern) and unhealthy negative emotions (like depression or guilt or anxiety). The person with the healthy negative emotions would conclude that it is sad that this has happened, but it is not awful and that they are still able to function. The person who adopts an unhealthy negative belief concludes that the circumstances are intolerable and so awful that they feel unable to function. REBT philosophy views individuals as having the power to change their unhealthy negative beliefs, and thereby transform psychological suffering into psychological health. Also, it emphasizes that they are also responsible for creating their own psychological disturbance as a matter of choice. This implies that individuals consciously or unconsciously select both rational beliefs and irrational beliefs when negative events occur. REBT uses the ABC framework to distinguish between the activating events (A), our belief about them (B) and the cognitive, emotional or behavioural consequences of our beliefs (C). This implies the logical consequence that present life conditions strongly affect but don’t disturb the person, but it is the individual's responses which can disturb.
The basic process of change with REBT begins for the client by acknowledging the existence of a problem. The client is then encouraged by the therapist to identify the underlying irrational belief which caused the original problem. This teaches the client to distinguish between irrational and rational beliefs and to understand why a rational alternative would be preferable. Challenging irrational beliefs and implementing a variety of cognitive, behavioural, emotive and imagery techniques is part of the learning process in REBT which is a directive approach as it actively disputes the client's irrational beliefs. Clients are also expected to put what they have learned into practice in the form of completing homework assignments.

What is PCC (Person Cantered Counselling)?

The philosophical assumptions that underpin Person Cantered Counselling are:

1. Human nature is essentially constructive and social
2. Self regard is a basic human need
3. People are motivated to seek the truth
4. Perception determines experience and behaviour
5. Individuals should be related to as a whole person

‘Roger’s ‘Three Core Conditions’ build the foundation of my counselling practice, which are:

• Be genuine and congruent
‘Congruence is the state of being of the counsellor when her outwards responses to her client consistently match the inner feelings and sensations which she has in relation to the client.’ (Dave Mearns and Brian Thorne: Person Centred Counselling in Action)

• Offer unconditional positive regard
‘The counsellor who holds this attitude deeply values the humanity of her clients and is not deflected in that valuing of any particular client behaviour. The attitude manifests itself in the counsellors consistent of enduring warmth towards the client. ‘(Dave Mearns and Brian Thorne: Person Centred Counselling in Action)

• Feel and communicate deep emphatic understanding:
‘ Empathy is a continuing process whereby the counsellor lays aside her own way of experiencing and perceiving reality, preferring to sense and respond to the experiences and perceptions of the client. This sensing may be intense and enduring with the counsellor actually experiencing the client’s thoughts and feelings as powerful as they had originated in herself.’ (Dave Mearns and Brian Thorne: Person Centred Counselling in Action)

How do I integrate the Person Centred framework into my counselling/psychotherapy practice?
I use Roger’s ‘Core Conditions’ in my every day practice. I communicate deep empathic understanding by providing a listening ear especially when clients spend a long time voicing their distress.
I take great care in building the relationship because I believe that in order to feel safe enough to engage in deeper work, the client/practitioner relationship needs to be of good quality and integrity.

What is TA?

The following definition is suggested by the International Transactional Analysis Association, ITA: ‘Transactional Analysis is a theory of personality and systematic psychotherapy for personal growth and personal change.’ ( ITA News February 2008, pa 28, section 2-The Code of Ethics)
‘As a theory of personality, TA gives us a picture of how people are structured psychologically. To do so it uses a three-part model known as the Ego-State Model. The same model helps us to understand how people function - how they express their personality in terms of behaviour.’ (Steward and Joines,1987)

TA is fundamentally a humanistic/existential model with its primary emphasis on human freedom and autonomy and provides a framework for observing what goes on between and inside people in order to help them make changes. In 1966 Berne described in one of his most popular books, ‘Principles of Group Treatment’ (1966) the first systematic use of TA in groups, drawing on more than 20 years of clinical experience of group psychotherapy in various settings.
TA concepts are often shared with clients, so there is a talking with rather than talking at clients. In this way the content and process of psychotherapy and counselling are demystified and developed into a shared endeavour.
TA places emphasis on taking personal responsibility for one's experience and in so doing puts the client in a central, proactive and therefore potentially powerful role within the counselling relationship. In this respect, TA is also referred to as a decisional model. It assumes that if we are personally responsible for our own experience, we must be responsible for the choices and decisions that we make about how we behave, how we feel, how we think and what we believe.
In TA the therapist facilitates the forming of a contract for specific changes desired by the client. The objective is to eliminate dysfunctional behaviours, establish and reinforce positive relationship styles and healthy functioning. Transactional Analysts are trained to use the many psychotherapeutic tools, ranging from psychodynamic to cognitive behavioural methods in effective and potent ways.

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